Sometimes, life spins in a direction far from what we planned, and we’re forced to start over. It’s not always a welcome change, but sometimes, it’s necessary. A reset can feel overwhelming, exciting, and reflective all at the same time. This is where my household is right now, and every single one of us is feeling the effects of it.
When life forces a reset, the weight of it can be exhausting. That’s exactly what I’m experiencing—financial struggles, schooling issues, behavioral challenges, divorce, marriage, and the general chaos of life all colliding at once. As a household, we’ve come to the conclusion that this season of resetting is necessary to create future stability for ourselves and our children.
Everyone in our home has a different response to this reset—excitement, resentment, rage, frustration, exhaustion. These emotions are all natural in times of change, but as Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” God has ordained these changes, and while they are difficult, I’m grateful to lean on Him in the midst of the uncertainty. Starting over is never easy, but it is an opportunity for all of us to grow—both as a family and as individuals.
In this season, I’m approaching everything with faith and prayer. If I’m doing nothing else, I am giving my burdens to Jesus. That doesn’t mean I’m standing still, waiting for things to fall into place—far from it. Every action I take is guided by my faith. Others in my household approach things differently. My husband takes a more practical stance, asking, "What do I need to do right now to further support my family in this time of change?"
One of the biggest lessons we’ve learned through this process is the importance of self-reflection. I’ve been reflecting on how to use my skills to reduce financial stress and keep our home functioning, even though I’m the only one in the house most of the time. I’ve been reflecting on my health—both mental and physical—and how this reset is an opportunity to make real changes. But more than anything, I’ve been reflecting on how I’ve made it through past trials. They may not have been as big or as life-altering as what I’m facing now, but there are always lessons to pull from past experiences.
In my own self-reflection, I’ve learned that I tend to be stubborn and inflexible—but those same qualities have also revealed my resilience and my ability to organize and adapt. Those qualities aren’t weaknesses; they are part of what makes me able to handle the challenges in front of me.
This season is not a setback—it is a foundation for the future. I would rather restart than try to undo the damage caused by the challenges that this reset is meant to eliminate. I like to think of this season as a worn-down building. If a structure is too damaged to provide shelter, and rebuilding from the ground up is more efficient than trying to repair something broken beyond recognition, then why waste time patching the cracks? My current situation is like that old building—rather than pouring all of my energy into fixing what no longer works, I’ve accepted that it’s time to start fresh.
Right now, we don’t have everything figured out. We have a decent short-term plan to help us eventually reach our long-term goals, but the biggest thing I’ve had to learn is the importance of flexibility. Not everything has a clear trajectory, and that’s okay. When I was a kid, I thought the adults in my life had it all figured out—that they could accomplish anything just by sheer will. But now, as an adult, I’ve come to realize they were just hiding the realities of life to protect my childhood innocence.
Through all of this, I am learning that faith is essential. Without faith, it feels like trying to play real-life Frogger with a blindfold on. And yes, I feel overwhelmed, but I also have joy in knowing that Jesus is carrying me through this life and that I am never alone in my struggles. Hebrews 12:1-2 says, “Therefore, since we also have such a large cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us lay aside every hindrance and the sin that so easily ensnares us. Let us run with endurance the race that lies before us, keeping our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith.”
So, dear reader, if God has ordained a reset in your life, you are not alone. You have saints running this race alongside you, cheering you on. As long as we fix our eyes on Jesus, the trials and suffering we endure serve a greater purpose.
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